Dr. Bob's Golf Blog
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
How To Sleep
Friday, August 31, 2012
Be In The Moment Or Else?
Most of us convince ourselves that life will be good once we are
married, have a baby.
We get frustrated because our children are not old enough,
and that all will be well when they are older.
Then we are frustrated because they reach adolescence and we must
deal with them. Surely we'll be happier when they grow out of the
teen years.
We tell ourselves our life will be better when our spouse gets
his/her act together, when we have a nicer car, when we can take
a vacation, when we finally retire.
The truth is that there is no better time to be happy than right
now.
If not, then when?
Our life will always be full of challenges. It is better to
admit as much and to decide to be happy in spite of it all.
For the longest time, it seemed that life was about to start.
Real life.
But there was always some obstacle along the way, an ordeal to
get through, some work to be finished, some time to be given, a
bill to be paid. Then life would start.
I finally came to understand that those obstacles were life.
That point of view helped me see that there isn't any road to
happiness.
Happiness IS the road.
So, enjoy every moment.
Stop waiting for school to end, for a return to school, to lose
ten pounds, to gain ten pounds, for work to begin, to get
married, for Friday evening, for Sunday morning, waiting for a
new car, for your mortgage to be paid off, for spring, for
summer, for fall, for winter, for the first or the fifteenth of
Most of us convince ourselves that life will be better once we are
married, have a baby, then another.
Then we get frustrated because our children are not old enough,
and that all will be well when they are older.
Then we are frustrated because they reach adolescence and we must
deal with them. Surely we'll be happier when they grow out of the
teen years.
We tell ourselves our life will be better when our spouse gets
his/her act together, when we have a nicer car, when we can take
a vacation, when we finally retire.
The truth is that there is no better time to be happy than right
now.
If not, then when?
Your life will always be full of challenges. It is better to
admit as much and to decide to be happy in spite of it all.
For the longest time, it seemed that life was about to start.
Real life.
But there was always some obstacle along the way, an ordeal to
get through, some work to be finished, some time to be given, a
bill to be paid. Then life would start.
I finally came to understand that those obstacles were life.
That point of view helped me see that there isn't any road to
happiness.
Happiness IS the road.
So, enjoy every moment.
Stop waiting for school to end, for a return to school, to lose
ten pounds, to gain ten pounds, for work to begin, to get
married, for Friday evening, for Sunday morning, waiting for a
new car, for your mortgage to be paid off, for spring, for
summer, for fall, for winter, for the first or the fifteenth of
the month, for your song to be played on the radio, to die, to be
reborn... before deciding to be happy.
Happiness is a voyage, not a destination.
There is no better time to be happy than.
Live and enjoy life to the edge.
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Red Roses....
Monday, January 30, 2012
A New Way To Think........
- A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than from
fears based on past experiences.
- An unmistaken ability to enjoy each moment.
- A loss of interest in judging self.
- A loss of interest in judging others.
- A loss in interest in conflict.
- A loss of interest in interpreting the action of others.
- A loss of the ability to worry. (This symptom is very serious.)
- Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
- Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature.
- Frequent attacks of smiling through the eyes of the Heart.
- Increasing susceptibility to love extended by others and the
uncomfortable urge to extend it.
- An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make
them happen.
If you have all or most of the above symptoms, please be advised
that your condition of PEACE may be so far advanced as to not be
treatable.
-- Author Unknown
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Golf Wisdom
And are finding here and there
A fault or two to speak of
Or a weakness you can't bear;
When you're blaming someone's weakness
Or accusing some of pelf..
It's time that you went out
To walk around yourself.
There are lots of human failures
In the average of us all
And lots of grave shortcomings
In the short ones and the tall;
But when we think of evils
Men should lay upon the shelves,
It's time we all went out
To take a walk around ourselves
We need so often in this life
This balancing of scales;
This seeing how much in us wins
And how much in us fails.
But before you judge another
Just to lay him on the shelf...
It would be a splendid plan
To take a walk around yourself.
-- Author Unknown
Friday, January 13, 2012
The Cool Olympics...
mentally or physically challenged, were standing on the start
line for the 100 m race.
The gun fired and the race began. Not everyone was running, but
everyone wanted to participate and win.
They ran in threes, a boy tripped and fell, did a few somersaults
and started crying.
The other eight heard him crying.
They slowed down and looked behind them.
They stopped and came back... All of them...
A girl with Down's Syndrome sat down next to him, hugged him and
asked, "Feeling better now?"
Then, all nine walked shoulder to shoulder to the finish line.
The whole crowd stood up and applauded. And the applause lasted a
very long time...
People who witnessed this still talk about it.
Why?
Because deep down inside us, we all know that the most important
thing in life is much more than winning for ourselves.
The most important thing in this life is to help others to win.
Even if that means slowing down and changing our own race.
A candle loses nothing if it is used to light another one."
- Author Unknown
Monday, January 9, 2012
The Power Of Your Actions.........
class walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he
was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone
bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd." I
had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my
friend the following afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went
on.
As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran
at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he
landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in
the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this
terrible sadness in his eyes.
My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him, and as he
crawled around looking for his glasses, I saw a tear in his eye.
I handed him his glasses and said, "Those guys are jerks. They
really should get lives."
He looked at me and said, "Hey, thanks!" There was a big smile on
his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I
helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. It turned
out he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before.
He said he had gone to private school before coming to this school.
I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We
talked all the way home, and I carried his books. He turned out to be
a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play football on
Saturday with me and my friends. He said yes. We hung all weekend and
the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him. And my friends
thought the same of him. Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with
the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, "Damn boy, you
are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books
everyday!". He just laughed and handed me half the books. Over the
next four years, Kyle and I became best friends.
When we were seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided
on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always
be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to
be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship.
Kyle was valedictorian of our class.
I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a
speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up
there and speak.
Graduation day arrived - I saw Kyle and he looked great. He was one
of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled
out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than me
and all the girls loved him!
Boy, sometimes I was jealous. Today was one of those days. I could
see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the
back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!"
He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one)
and smiled. "Thanks," he said. As he started his speech, he cleared
his throat, and began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who
helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your
teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach... but mostly your friends. I
am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best
gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story."
I stared at my friend in disbelief as he told the story of the first
day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He
talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have
to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me
and gave me a little smile. "Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved
me from doing the unspeakable."
I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy
told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking
at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did
I realize its depth.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small
gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse. God
puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way.
Look for God in others.
"Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have
trouble remembering how to fly."
-Author unknown